adult teenagers

[IHT]

"i want a job where i sit at a computer and don't do anything but get paid a lot of money".


:confused:






how about you read this:
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[Corona Gigante]

"Job?" What's a "job?"

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[IHT]

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[PitDog]

^^^ :r

[jkim05]

but that's exactly what i'm looking for???

[BigVito]

http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u155/sissterdarkness/cats/funny.jpg

:r:r

[shilala]

That cat pic damn near killed me.
I gotta go take my pills and get back to the couch. :D

[j6ppc]

http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/funny-pictures-cats-computer-blue-screen-death.jpg

[ForestPuma]

http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/funny-pictures-cats-computer-blue-screen-death.jpg


:r:r

[DriftyGypsy]

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[EvanS]

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Dear god make it stop

[Corona Gigante]

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[vstrommark]

"i want a job where i sit at a computer and don't do anything but get paid a lot of money".

I was offered such a position once, but they didn't do direct deposit, so I turned them down. Oh, and you forgot to mention that it was a telecommute position. :tu

[DBall]

http://i167.photobucket.com/albums/u155/sissterdarkness/cats/funny.jpg

Wow... that made my day. :D

[Cigarmark]

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[IHT]

it seems THIS THREAD was also taken the wrong way.

in the past i have posted about many things stupid teenagers do. why? i have a 19 yr old step-son.

the first line of this topic is a direct quote from his mouth tuesday night.
he has also been in re-hab, he's logged 3,000 text messages in a month, he's stolen some of my pipes and used them for ganja... he's done many other things that i've posted about on here openly...

how this topic was taken personally by others here, i don't know. but so you all know, i have an "adult-teenager"..

oh, yesterday during lunch, he asks to borrow my truck to buy cigs. i could spend the next hour describing why he doesn't have a car...
so, he drives to 2 spots, who card him both times. dumbass can't find his DL to show proof of ID. this would be the 4th time in roughly 6 months he's lost it (found it last night).

yep, adult-teenagers, not CS posters, that's the topic. :tu

[CigarMonkel]

hey now... i'm only twenty. I still live with my folks though but i've already been out and lived in a student co-op housing while i was in school on UofM campus. I've had a REAL job that i can put on my resume for my career already and no it wasn't an internship kinda thing. it was an actual legit job. I'm in skilled labor (auto collision repair) and job experience is MUCH more important to body shops then any kind or type of school. School just looks nice on paper but since most of these guys don't even care about how fancy your resume looks and as long as you have experience thats all they care about. They were the last body shop in town to even consider me... i had to talk my way into the position.

[Harpo]

it seems THIS THREAD was also taken the wrong way.

in the past i have posted about many things stupid teenagers do. why? i have a 19 yr old step-son.

the first line of this topic is a direct quote from his mouth tuesday night.
he has also been in re-hab, he's logged 3,000 text messages in a month, he's stolen some of my pipes and used them for ganja... he's done many other things that i've posted about on here openly...

how this topic was taken personally by others here, i don't know. but so you all know, i have an "adult-teenager"..

oh, yesterday during lunch, he asks to borrow my truck to buy cigs. i could spend the next hour describing why he doesn't have a car...
so, he drives to 2 spots, who card him both times. dumbass can't find his DL to show proof of ID. this would be the 4th time in roughly 6 months he's lost it (found it last night).

yep, adult-teenagers, not CS posters, that's the topic. :tu


Damn, sounds like a classic case of too much weed resulting in zero motivation and no life. If he doesn't shape up his attitude and drug-taking he'll end up like this guy I know who's 30 and still lives with his parents and plays computer games all day. Claims he's "depressed" but still has time to go out every night to his friend's house to get stoned. :BS

Time for some tough love? :2

[IHT]

hey now... i'm only twenty. I still live with my folks though but i've already been out and lived in a student co-op housing while i was in school on UofM campus. I've had a REAL job that i can put on my resume for my career already and no it wasn't an internship kinda thing. it was an actual legit job. I'm in skilled labor (auto collision repair) and job experience is MUCH more important to body shops then any kind or type of school. School just looks nice on paper but since most of these guys don't even care about how fancy your resume looks and as long as you have experience thats all they care about. They were the last body shop in town to even consider me... i had to talk my way into the position.

this one got kicked out of vo-tech.
he also only survived 2 shifts at the grociery store...
he didn't show up for his training at a high dollar eatery after he got hired, so he didn't get anything work in from there...
he's been kicked out of our house already once. kicked out of grandparents house just recently. kicked out of his apt with his buddies at the beginning of the year.
dropped out of school.
can't get car insurance on his own, even if he had a job. he's got "state ran" auto insurance.
.... i could go on for days.

[DriftyGypsy]

Sounds like a candidate for the military... seriously, they may be able to instill the discipline needed in his life.

[r-ice]

Sounds like a candidate for the military... seriously, they may be able to instill the discipline needed in his life.

lol you beat me to it, I was just about to suggest boot camp.

[IHT]

Sounds like a candidate for the military... seriously, they may be able to instill the discipline needed in his life.

i totally agree.
but as he's an adult, i can't force him to join. he's 19.
he wants nothing to do with the military because he's a moronic lazy teen who gets his news from ppl who don't have a clue.
i tried to talk him into the Air Force even, since it's like community service. :r if he is deployed, it's only for 3 months and depending on what his job is, he'll most likely be stuck in kuwait or saudi if he were to even get deployed.

his grandpops said the same thing to my wife last week, she laughed and told him that we've already mentioned that. any time we get pamphlets in the mail for any service, i go lay it right in front of him. :r

anyway... he's been told he needs to step up and be a productive member of society cuz you can't survive without an income (you can, but i don't think he qualifies for welfare.) ;)

[Corona Gigante]

Does he have a girlfriend? Boys' attitudes towards money tend to change when a girl starts batting her eyelids at him and asking him to take her somewhere nice...

[D. Generate]

i tried to talk him into the Air Force even, since it's like community service. :r

:r:r

[cquon]

i tried to talk him into the Air Force even, since it's like community service. :r

Ok, that's it, now I'm offended! I'm outta here! :D

I spent 15 yrs in the Air Force, and it wasn't no picnic. You try humpin' snow and spending 12 - 14 hrs a day on a missile site when it's friggin' 60 degrees below zero (wind chill), and then come back and tell me it's community service. I wouldn't wish it on a broke-dick dog. Then again, I wouldn't trade that 15 yrs for anything.

:tu

[Syekick]

Ok, that's it, now I'm offended! I'm outta here! :D

I spent 15 yrs in the Air Force, and it wasn't no picnic. You try humpin' snow and spending 12 - 14 hrs a day on a missile site when it's friggin' 60 degrees below zero (wind chill), and then come back and tell me it's community service. I wouldn't wish it on a broke-dick dog. Then again, I wouldn't trade that 15 yrs for anything.

:tu


Hmmp, all shore duty. USN Retired. :D

[IHT]

Ok, that's it, now I'm offended! I'm outta here! :D

I spent 15 yrs in the Air Force, and it wasn't no picnic. You try humpin' snow and spending 12 - 14 hrs a day on a missile site when it's friggin' 60 degrees below zero (wind chill), and then come back and tell me it's community service. I wouldn't wish it on a broke-dick dog. Then again, I wouldn't trade that 15 yrs for anything.

:tu

:r
my dad was in the air farce as well.
my training was at an air force base, they lived like kings. the main point i was getting through to him is that if he ever did get deployed, depending on what his job was, he'd be out of harms way and only gone for 3 months. not 7 like the marines, or the 1-1.5 yrs like the army per pop. i mention all the benefits, the training that he could use on the outside world, etc.
nah, he'd rather do nuthin.
doyle, my dad was almost sent to greenland during vietnam... is that where you were?

[CigarMonkel]

Does he have a girlfriend? Boys' attitudes towards money tend to change when a girl starts batting her eyelids at him and asking him to take her somewhere nice...

:tpd::tpd:

[nozero]

Hey, yet another club I can join.

Our oldest son is 29, currently and more often than not, unemployed. We foot the bills. Rent, car payment, gas, insurance, medical (when needed), food and other incidentals. I keep hoping the light will come on.

The youngest is gainfully employed at Bell Helicopter, attenting junior college at his expense and pays his own way.

My mother, may she rest in peace, always said, "I hope you have two exactly like you".

[r-ice]

Hey, yet another club I can join.

Our oldest son is 29, currently and more often than not, unemployed. We foot the bills. Rent, car payment, gas, insurance, medical (when needed), food and other incidentals. I keep hoping the light will come on.

The youngest is gainfully employed at Bell Helicopter, attenting junior college at his expense and pays his own way.

My mother, may she rest in peace, always said, "I hope you have two exactly like you".



Man Life is not fair.. sorry .. Im 26 and I have to work for a living .. sigh I wish I could just not have a job and veg... wait thats what retirement is for. When I finished college I decided to go to japan to teach english and I guess that was where I learnt to pick up my shit or else. I learnt to cook because If I didn't cook, i starved. I learned to semi budget my money, because if I didn't, I either didn't get food or beer.. lol.. Maybe that is the way to go ..

[jmcrawf1]

Man Life is not fair.. sorry .. Im 26 and I have to work for a living .. sigh I wish I could just not have a job and veg... wait thats what retirement is for. When I finished college I decided to go to japan to teach english and I guess that was where I learnt to pick up my shit or else. I learnt to cook because If I didn't cook, i starved. I learned to semi budget my money, because if I didn't, I either didn't get food or beer.. lol.. Maybe that is the way to go ..


:tpd:


My income is 100% earned by my calloused 24 y/o hands. I have no sympathy for unproductive members of society.

No workey no eatey. Not no workey and mom and dad give me money to blow on weed.....

(Not you IHT, sometimes I just gotta rant) :D

[BigVito]

:tpd:


My income is 100% earned by my calloused 24 y/o hands. I have no sympathy for unproductive members of society.

No workey no eatey. Not no workey and mom and dad give me money to blow on weed.....

(Not you IHT, sometimes I just gotta rant) :D

IHT is handing out money? /getting in line

[cquon]

:r
my dad was in the air farce as well.
my training was at an air force base, they lived like kings. the main point i was getting through to him is that if he ever did get deployed, depending on what his job was, he'd be out of harms way and only gone for 3 months. not 7 like the marines, or the 1-1.5 yrs like the army per pop. i mention all the benefits, the training that he could use on the outside world, etc.
nah, he'd rather do nuthin.
doyle, my dad was almost sent to greenland during vietnam... is that where you were?

Nope, not greenland, exactly, although it might as well have been. I was in ND for 12.5 yrs. Then finished up at Cape Canaveral.

[IHT]

IHT is handing out money? /getting in line

lol... that's funny. you obviously haven't read my posts in the pipe open thread. my wife is now going on not getting paid fr 3 straight pay periods due to her back and her dr. screwing up her short term disability paperwork (she makes more than i do by a wide margin).
i had to splash my truck with 2 gal of gas tonight using my corp credit card just to make it to my payday...

it has opened her eyes a bit as to how much she spends (and how little i do). there's always positives. she also won't give me shit about my bad back now either.
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i've been working since i was 14. my older bro was 16, got me hired at a pizza place. i delievered my first pizza at age 15, before i had a DL or permit... i had my 2nd job a week after i got my car at age 16.
the longest i have gone without a "job" was when i graduated high school and was waiting to go to basic training. that was a month of doing nothing. since then, i have worked non-stop.
so, from 14 until now (37), i've not had a job for 1 month.

father figures play a role, too bad i got ahold of this one so late in his life (he was 10).

[BigVito]

lol... that's funny. you obviously haven't read my posts in the pipe open thread. my wife is now going on not getting paid fr 3 straight pay periods due to her back and her dr. screwing up her short term disability paperwork (she makes more than i do by a wide margin).
i had to splash my truck with 2 gal of gas tonight using my corp credit card just to make it to my payday...

it has opened her eyes a bit as to how much she spends (and how little i do). there's always positives. she also won't give me shit about my bad back now either.
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i've been working since i was 14. my older bro was 16, got me hired at a pizza place. i delievered my first pizza at age 15, before i had a DL or permit... i had my 2nd job a week after i got my car at age 16.
the longest i have gone without a "job" was when i graduated high school and was waiting to go to basic training. that was a month of doing nothing. since then, i have worked non-stop.
so, from 14 until now (37), i've not had a job for 1 month.

father figures play a role, too bad i got ahold of this one so late in his life (he was 10).

understand about the lack of Drs help. I have 1.5 days of vacation left out of 18. No dr would fill out any paper work till I scheduled surgery. I have been battling since June of 2007 with inept pricks. I was one sneeze away from losing my job. I hope your wife gets the help she needs and starts healing.

[Drazzil]

Hey, yet another club I can join.

Our oldest son is 29, currently and more often than not, unemployed. We foot the bills. Rent, car payment, gas, insurance, medical (when needed), food and other incidentals. I keep hoping the light will come on.

The youngest is gainfully employed at Bell Helicopter, attenting junior college at his expense and pays his own way.

My mother, may she rest in peace, always said, "I hope you have two exactly like you".


Hey! Can I come live with you? :tu:r:D

[replicant_argent]

Sounds like pretty severe. Did you ever consider seeking professional counseling for him? He might take that better than advice from his step-dad and his own mother. Who knows? In any case, it cannot hurt and so far all your admonishments and encouragements have not helped a lot it seems.

OTOH cut him some slack. He got out of HS at 17, perhaps was refused for college, might want to travel. Can you afford to send him on a grand tour for six to twelve months? I am not talking about the Hilton but say a round-the-world ticket ($4000) and $800-1000 per month. If you sell his car and don't have to pay his bills at home that might come out just the same.

He'll be on his own and have to prove himself while making all kinds of experiences.

Till

You were joking here, right? I'm sorry if I don't quite get your sense of humor, if that is in fact what it is. Wait..... if you were trying to be funny here, I just got it. That's fookin' hilarious.









Grand tour.... snicker......
(you meant him putting his own rear end in Uncle Sams Misguided Childrens Choir perhaps?)

[MrBucket101]

i really wish i have something positive to contribute to the thread, but I think i fall into to "adult teenager" stereotype going on here...
(before i wrote the story i thought i was going in that direction...o well enjoy the story)


My JR year of HS i was unemployed for the first couple of months and then i got a part time job working at a shitty grocery store that required way more work than the minimum wage salary, (no joke it really was min wage)...and the only reason i even stayed there that long was because they worked around my schedule. 1 week in advance I'd fill out a slip telling them what hours and what days i would work and that would be that. eventually i just told them i would work 8 hrs sat and 8hrs sun...This was great b/c i played soccer like crazy, good thing i did it helped me find the college im at now...

but anyways onto my real point---i worked on and off at this place until they "offered" me a promotion...it paid 1.25 more but i would have to work in the deli...little did I know that they would severely cut my hours though, so i went from making like 100$ a week at a lower pay grade to working about 6hrs total a week.

I told my deli-boss that I quit and requested to go back to being the cart boy...my old boss told me he would get everything worked out, and he would call me when i could come back to work...he never called so i basically just assumed termination.

now onto the lazy teenager story...my HS was doing some promotion with a car dealership...the point was to keep us all locked inside the school during graduation night b/c like statistically its the most dangerous night of the year for us (dont quote me there), so all the schools in our county 3 gathered and we stayed inside solely b/c if you stayed till the end of the night they would draw your name out of a hat to win a prize....Well my name got drawn out of the hat to win the grand prize. A 2007 brand new ford mustang---which i turned around and sold for 21K because i already had a car.

I then hastily "invested" roughly half that money into pimpin my car out...I like the term invest b/c it sounds less like waste...(for the curious ppl http://www.cardomain.com/ride/2649422)

so i thought i was set for the rest of my college career, and so i never looked for a job, so all summer i sat on my ass...

It wasn't till recently that i regretted spending most of the money, because right now I have less money than before i won that car...buying your own food sux, and i miss steak, mmmmm steakkk

so yea theres the end of my story, but to sum it up...I'm a broke college kid whose eatin his way through his small fortune


I also liked all the LOLcats in the beginning...of which im addicted to...so i thought i wuold contribute my own
http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2007/05/i-bleev-u-have-mai-staplr-mai-staplr-i-bleev-u-have-it.jpg

[billhud]

i totally agree.
but as he's an adult, i can't force him to join. he's 19.
he wants nothing to do with the military because he's a moronic lazy teen who gets his news from ppl who don't have a clue.

It's good you can't force him. The military truly doesn't need such men forced into it. OTOH, when such men volunteer, they're likely looking for something whether discipline, structure, a trade, a chance to change, etc., which is usually great for both the military and the man.

[DonWeb]

It's good you can't force him. The military truly doesn't need such men forced into it. OTOH, when such men volunteer, they're likely looking for something whether discipline, structure, a trade, a chance to change, etc., which is usually great for both the military and the man.
how true, how true.

"i want a job where i sit at a computer and don't do anything but get paid a lot of money".

hmmm, how about sonar operator, or radar technician. although there is still that pesky boot camp.

sounds like a rough patch with the back and bills and all.

[gvarsity]

I had a conversation with some friends about this thread because she is having the same types of problem with her granddaughter. She just got busted for OUI and possession. (the granddaughter clearly) 19 and clueless.

I also have a sort of nephew who is 22 with 3 kids with three different women. The mother of the most recent was in jail while he took care of the month old baby. It frightens me to think of what that home situation looked like. Has never held a job longer than about 3 months. He thinks you can get by in life on welfare and getting high.

I have no idea how it happens. It is sad really. The irony is I have a job that is/can be sit around all day and do nothing and pull down a good paycheck. It blows for the most part. It can be really boring. (It's a long story but it's not like I try to be a bum) I guarantee you none of these kids could keep my job for six months. Why? Because you still have to show up every day, sober, do the minimum without complaint and work hard when necessary.

I haven't been without a job for more than a few months since I was 15 years old. Most of the time working damn hard for not a lot of money. So that taught me not to screw with a good thing when it comes along. You take the bad with the good and try to transition to something better when you get a chance.

You have my sympathy because if there was a solution someone would be a millionaire from fixing everyones problem children. At some level I suspect you have to metaphorically throw em off the dock in the deep end and hope they learn to swim. The reality is if you do that a good chunk won't make it. It is sad. My nephew was a really nice sweet little boy and I never would have predicted the waste of space he turned out to be.

[Da Klugs]

Such a difficult subject to discuss honestly and civilly. Is it a crap shoot the way kids turn out? Does heredity have any influence? Environment and schools? Parental involvement and supervision? Friends and influencer's? Is it governments fault?

You can see a myriad of exceptions to things but.....

There are reasons for "suburban flight". There are reasons for holding teachers to standards that are higher than in normal society. There are reasons that it is hard to break the "cycle of poverty". Some stereotypes are based upon prejudice many on statistics. Not fair, but statistically correct.

I'm a believer in odds, but a dreamer and celebrator of exceptions. They seem to be used in many aspects of our lives. Simple ones like betting at Casinos are empirical truths. They don't build those big casinos on the shoulders of the winners. Loans are given based upon factors which essentially come down to "odds of repayment". Jobs are offered based upon the "odds" that background, education, experience and interpersonal communication display the best chance of success. Promotions and raises are granted in large part based upon performance as compared to a baseline or others or fear of loss to another employer.

What affects these "odds" when it comes to how and where a child manages to move into adult society? If you are the child of an impoverished drug addicted single mother on public assistance living in an inner city environment are your odds better or worse? If you live in a wealthy community with good schools and "perfect parents" do your odds improve?

The beauty of our country is that "anyone can succeed" at whatever their dream and definition of success may be. The reality is that the odds are different based upon things that they are born in to.

My view on government's role in all of this is to level and or change these odds. There are simple examples in the education system. It's law that children will go to school from K-12. How many kids would never go to school or at least go for as long as they do is it was not required? It's law that our society will mutually share the burden of this social program through Federal, State and Local taxes. It has evolved to inequities based upon income... but there is a baseline and opportunity to improve with some effort and sacrifice on the part of parents.

Good (or at least better) schools are available to the children of almost any parents willing to work and sacrifice for their children. I'm a product of a middle class family. Never went hungry but we didn't live an extravagant lifestyle. My parents both worked, but mom made sure we sat down every night and ate dinner as a family. Steak once a month was a big deal and a special treat. They moved us from a community with declining schools etc. to one that was much better when I was 8. Over time I came to understand that it was the primary determinate of my father changing jobs. My 3 childhood friends from this community are a non statistically valid but personal sample. One was shot and killed at age 17 in a drug related incident. One was in and out of jail through his 20's. Another became a doctor, has 4 kids and a great life. What does it mean? To me it has meaning as the nature of the families and friends in my new neighborhood was much different than in the old. I think it improved my odds.

Families have a huge impact on the odds. Parents that "invest" in their children improve their odds. Peer groups have a huge impact on the odds. If your peer group is academically high achieving / socially involved / school sports or activities / forced to come home every day and do homework by caring parents, your odds improve. If you go to schools with decent or better teachers you get more than the "required basics" and your odds improve. If you are raised in communities where there are shared values, low crime and a societal harmony, your odds improve.

Sacrifice for the good of our children? Seems to have a different definition today then it did 50 years ago.

All that being said.... it's still a crap shoot. Friggin kids! I was just addressing the odds. :D

[shilala]

I pretty much use a tough love approach with all my kids. I let them make their own decisions. If they ask for my advice I give it to them. If they want to know how "life works" I tell them. I have always exposed them to every part of life, good and bad, then we talk about it so they know what it really is, not what they "think" it is.
Part of this plan is that when they make bad decisions, they suffer the consequences.
Kinda like this...
"Dad, can I borrow 20 bucks?"
"Didn't I give you 20 yesterday?"
"Yah, but we spent it at the drugstore on candy. Now (insert random friend's name here) wants to go to the movies."
"Hmm. You probably oughta go back to the drugstore and see if they'll give you your money back."
"DAAaaaaad, they won't do thaaaaat."
"I guess you have a problem then."
This is where I walk. The kids pretty much always come up with a workable solution to their immediate problem.
This approach has worked wonders with my kids. Their problems are no longer everyone else's problems as a result. They can do their own thinking, take responsibility for their actions, and always ask for help when they need it.
The girlfriend's kids, on the other hand, were always very sheltered. In the year and a half she and I have been together they've come miles from the filthy rotten little hog-holers they once were. :)
I have almost trained the 9 year old how to shut the tv off. And I suspect that he now uses soap in the shower ever since I explained to him that he was going to be pretty doggone embarrassed if I had to come upstairs and scrub his balls for him.
It's funny how kids respond to the real world when we don't treat them like precious flowers. To me they are, and it's hell sometimes to watch them deal with the pains that are life, but they always come to ask for solutions.
If they keep on relying on others for help, they're going to turn out alright. Maybe. :D

[Mad Hatter]

Man............... you think you've got problems? I have a 2 year old nephew who "needs to see a behavioral specialist" because he bit another kid at pre-school today. Uncivilized little bastard!

[TheEconomist]

lol... that's funny. you obviously haven't read my posts in the pipe open thread. my wife is now going on not getting paid fr 3 straight pay periods due to her back and her dr. screwing up her short term disability paperwork (she makes more than i do by a wide margin).
i had to splash my truck with 2 gal of gas tonight using my corp credit card just to make it to my payday...

it has opened her eyes a bit as to how much she spends (and how little i do). there's always positives. she also won't give me shit about my bad back now either.
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i've been working since i was 14. my older bro was 16, got me hired at a pizza place. i delievered my first pizza at age 15, before i had a DL or permit... i had my 2nd job a week after i got my car at age 16.
the longest i have gone without a "job" was when i graduated high school and was waiting to go to basic training. that was a month of doing nothing. since then, i have worked non-stop.
so, from 14 until now (37), i've not had a job for 1 month.

father figures play a role, too bad i got ahold of this one so late in his life (he was 10).

Hey, I used to work for Northwestern Mutual and am Licensed in Health, DI and Life insurance in Wisconsin. I also worked with clients from all over the country, and the policy is generally the same. , if you as the insured did everything asked of you, and it was indeed the Doctor or agent who screwed
something up, you are still covered. Call your insurance agent to make sure, but I am 99.999% sure that this is still the case in every state.

Call your insurance agent and let him know whats going on. or if the DI is through her company, get in contact with her benefits administrator, who will tell you the name of the agent. If he doesn't do anything, get a hold of the doctor. If he doesn't do anything, write a letter and an email to your commissioner of insurance, as he will light some butts on fire (insurance commissioner= the most feared man in the business, as licenses can be snatched in an instant). Maybe think about a lawsuit to make up for the lost wages (depending on the amount your wife makes).

not to mention your wife could do all this from home.

[DriftyGypsy]

Man............... you think you've got problems? I have a 2 year old nephew who "needs to see a behavioral specialist" because he bit another kid at pre-school today. Uncivilized little bastard!

OMFG... a two year old boy bites who wudda of thought of that... JHC... what is this world coming too, heck I wonder what they would have thought of my little brother, who was never right in the head... his first day at kindergarten he calls this other little black kid a black crayon, the kid took offense (not that I blame him) and used his black crayon and scribbled all over my brothers white shirt. Did they have to go to intervention or perhaps some kind of bullcrap... no, they got put in opposite corners during play time. Lesson learned.

[JAK]

Seeing a good therepist never did any harm to anyone, I know it helped me out a lot when I was younger. Its good to see parents dealing appropriately with a difficult situation. I wish more parents would follow their example and get as good of pyscological care for their children as they do for their physical health

[Mad Hatter]

Seeing a good therepist never did any harm to anyone, I know it helped me out a lot when I was younger. Its good to see parents dealing appropriately with a difficult situation. I wish more parents would follow their example and get as good of pyscological care for their children as they do for their physical health

"Good" is the key word in that statement. Unfortunately a certificate doesn't make anyone good at anything. That takes talent.

[JAK]

your right, but that goes for everything. There are bad doctors, bad dentists, etc. That doesn't mean a parent should never take their kid to the doctor or the dentist just because there are some incompetent people out their, they just need to do some investigation to make sure they are going to a good one. I just feel that some parents don't take their childrens psychological well being as seriously as their physical well being and that there is a stigma assosciated with seeing a therepist.

[Mad Hatter]

your right, but that goes for everything. There are bad doctors, bad dentists, etc. That doesn't mean a parent should never take their kid to the doctor or the dentist just because there are some incompetent people out their, they just need to do some investigation to make sure they are going to a good one. I just feel that some parents don't take their childrens psychological well being as seriously as their physical well being and that there is a stigma assosciated with seeing a therepist.

My nephew's problem is his mom and dad both work full-time and go to school full time. He has about two hours at home in the morning and another 1 or 2 before bedtime and the rest is spent between preschool and assorted family members with varying degrees of ideas and influences. We had a long talk with the supervisor at his school and got to the heart of the problem. He's not a bad kid and is happy all the time but he hasn't learned how to interact with kids his own age and he tries to play with them the way he plays with his dog. We got a lot of information exchanged with the school and he's learning that his playful behavior isn't what other people consider playful. He's probably picked the pushing thing up from one of his teenage cousins or watching his dad play with the dog. At the end of our meeting the school supervisor understood that its a problem with the adults in his life and not a problem with him (child problem, as she put it). Good communication, IMO, is a very important step before seeking a psychologist. Luckily we had that option so not only do we fully understand the behavior but the school also understands his situation and why he might be behaving the way he does.

[cbsmokin]

"i want a job where i sit at a computer and don't do anything but get paid a lot of money".


These jobs actually exist (mine is kind of like it). But you have to be good at something to get there and that doesn't come from being lazy. Tell him to go to school and stay in school until there are no more degrees to be had, then he will have a chance to work real hard for a long time to get a job like that.

Obviously that won't work,but it is the truth. I wish you the best of luck with what is a very tough situation.