View Full Version : Why did I tell my wife I'd QUIT???
TikiHut27
05-12-2008, 02:46 AM
I used to smoke every so often with my buddies.
During my Iraq deployment in 2004 it ramped up to six sticks a day.
When I got home I slowed down to one or two a day. My wife, who is fairly cool and will every so often light up a puro herself, was not happy but never said a thing.
When I was activated for Afghanistan, I felt super guilty for leaving her again, so, in an effort to make her feel better about the situation, I casually mentioned I was only going to smoke through the end of the deployment.
While it might be a good idea to move to weekends only, I enjoy a nice smoke WAY to much to want to stop.
So what do I do now?
JordanWexler
05-12-2008, 06:50 AM
You dug yourself deep.
I suppose either you hold to your promise - or you remind her its something that you really, truly enjoy.
25box
05-12-2008, 06:54 AM
wow 6 sticks! I thought I was doing good with 1 a night while I was deployed to Balad. What she doesn't know won't hurt her - But honesty is the best policy.
Well, in hind sight, not so good a statement. But, in my little world, it's amazing what some of that shiney, glittery stuff you wear on fingers and around the neck will let me do :)
icehog3
05-12-2008, 10:02 AM
If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.
ResIpsa
05-12-2008, 10:09 AM
If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.
:tpd: I'd discuss it with her or keep my word, because if she finds out you didn't, not good.
bruceolee
05-12-2008, 11:48 AM
If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.
:tpd:
I've been on several antidepressants over the past couple of years and right now nothing works better than a nice cigar at the end of the day. Just let her know how much it really does help you. it's best to be honest in this situation.
CigarmanTim
05-12-2008, 12:14 PM
So what do I do now?
Claim temporary insanity
Don Fernando
05-12-2008, 12:44 PM
So what do I do now?
Deny that you ever told her you would quit.
vstrommark
05-12-2008, 12:46 PM
If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.
:tpd: could not have said it better. Relationships require solid communications
TikiHut27
05-12-2008, 02:34 PM
If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.
You are definitely on the right track. Cigar smoking is not something you can hide from your wife, either. (Plus I don't work like that.) But I made a promise, right? Isn't that kind of backing out?
If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.
:tpd: Honesty may not always the best policy...but when it comes to the bride, it's the only policy. Talk it over with her and hope she understands how much you enjoy cigars and maybe you can work something out.
I'd discuss it with her or keep my word, because if she finds out you didn't, not good.
:tpd: also
Good luck and thank you for your service.
TikiHut27
05-12-2008, 02:43 PM
:tpd: Honesty may not always the best policy...but when it comes to the bride, it's the only policy. Talk it over with her and hope she understands how much you enjoy cigars and maybe you can work something out.
:tpd: also
Good luck and thank you for your service.
Thanks, appreciate it.
I still think maybe weekends only is a good option.
Also I like the shiny stuff suggestion from volt!
BamBam
05-12-2008, 06:07 PM
Claim temporary insanity
:r:r:r
TikiHut27
05-13-2008, 07:22 AM
I've decided I'm too sensitive. Must be something in the water.
I'll go home and say "Woman, light my damn cigar!".
That should do it, right?
TikiHut27
05-13-2008, 07:32 AM
wow 6 sticks! I thought I was doing good with 1 a night while I was deployed to Balad. What she doesn't know won't hurt her - But honesty is the best policy.
Yeah, and I was on the road 12 hours a day, too. I will never forget this: my convoy was stopped on ASR Ginger waiting for an IED to be cleared. We'd been there a bit so I lit up a Don Tomas. About five minutes later we started taking small arms fire from the east- I raised up my M4 and smacked my stogie with it! I moved the cigar quickly to the left side of my mouth and returned fire, puffing away to keep the smoke lit.
Unfortunately, the cigar didn't burn properly after that. I was very upset at the time.
Luke Z
06-12-2008, 02:30 PM
Yeah, and I was on the road 12 hours a day, too. I will never forget this: my convoy was stopped on ASR Ginger waiting for an IED to be cleared. We'd been there a bit so I lit up a Don Tomas. About five minutes later we started taking small arms fire from the east- I raised up my M4 and smacked my stogie with it! I moved the cigar quickly to the left side of my mouth and returned fire, puffing away to keep the smoke lit.
Unfortunately, the cigar didn't burn properly after that. I was very upset at the time.
It seems like forever sence thouse days of 5-tons with weled on steel and using bulets for armor on ginger and tampa. I would ake them again to be back under a comand that didn't care you where smoking so long as you where shooting.
As far as he promises you may find your wife so happy to have you back again she will forgive a stogie while you mow the lawn just because she dosent have to any more.
TikiHut27
06-13-2008, 03:31 AM
As far as he promises you may find your wife so happy to have you back again she will forgive a stogie while you mow the lawn just because she dosent have to any more.
After I just bought her that new lawn mower for her birthday? I would never be that uncaring.
icehog3
06-13-2008, 10:07 AM
After I just bought her that new lawn mower for her birthday? I would never be that uncaring.
The gift every woman longs for....sweeet!! :r
TikiHut27
06-14-2008, 06:40 AM
The gift every woman longs for....sweeet!! :r
No, seriously. She's back home and our old mower stopped self-propelling. So she went to Sears and got a new one. So during last week's phone call I told her I was happy she did that so that now I don't have to buy her a birthday present.
.......
Did you know that you can HEAR a glare through international phone lines?
For real I sent her a fur coat, a star sapphire and gold pendant, and a silver bracelet I had made with 7 mounted star sapphires (she likes sapphires). And a small jewelry box and a lapis lazuli carving. All bazaar purchases but she should be happy, although she doesn't know the package is coming.
How she hasn't killed me because of my warped sense of humor after 12 years of marriage is beyond me. I consider myself very lucky.
TikiHut27
06-14-2008, 06:54 AM
As far as he promises you may find your wife so happy to have you back again she will forgive a stogie while you mow the lawn just because she dosent have to any more.
Z- I'm sure she would.
But to drop my previosly mentioned warped sense of humor for a second, and to get back on track, the key issue is I promised her (and I value my promises) and furthermore with regard to this particular slippery slope (which I tread upon wearing teflon shoes), I feel it will only be a matter of time before that lawn-mowing cigar turns to a three-a-day habit again. All or nothing, I'm afraid.
Mad Hatter
06-14-2008, 04:00 PM
:confused: Maybe tell her you changed your mind