In Denial or Incognito?

Take it or leave it, this is good advise. If you are hiding stuff from someone you care about, it WILL lead to larger problems.

You don't realize it NOW, but just by virtue of hiding something, you're making it "okay" to hide stuff.

If you deeply care about this person (as opposed to just not wanting them to get mad at you, so that you'll keep getting laid) then I would just be as honest as possible about what you're about.

That advise sounds so free-spirited, but i'm a lifelong conservative. I just think it's the ONLY way to be in a relationship with someone you care about.

Everyone makes their share of mistakes, of course, but there is absolutely NO reason to be stealthy about smoking cigars (unless you're 19 and the girl is still immature).
 
I've always said that the best recourse for cheese doodles is construction paper. The red always seems to work best. Try to talk to your watch or a clock in your domicile about the chances of drawing a straight flush at the World Series of Poker. You'll get through this if you have a Lenny Dykstra rookie card.

MCS
 
is that a quote from a movie or is that the most incredibly genius thing I have ever read IN MY LIFE? WHOA!
 
The master of the perfectly relevant non sequitur - you have ways with words MCS!




Major Captain Silly said:
I've always said that the best recourse for cheese doodles is construction paper. The red always seems to work best. Try to talk to your watch or a clock in your domicile about the chances of drawing a straight flush at the World Series of Poker. You'll get through this if you have a Lenny Dykstra rookie card.

MCS
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Sometimes, you'll come across a few people who refuse to understand...or even make any effort to try and understand. My wife happens to be in that category of people. No matter how honest I am, it just doesn't matter. The bottom line has always been NO SMOKING. The occasional cigar is fine, as long as I keep it "occasional." But for the most part, it's NO SMOKING.

I kept on smoking cigarettes, even years after I told my wife I had quit. She's never dealt with cigarette addiction and despite how much I tried to educate her on the subject matter, she just didn't get it. I got sick of arguing, so I decided that I would quit on my terms when I was ready...and I moved at my own pace shrouding it all in secrecy.

One day, she'll eventually accept me for the cigar smoker that I am. And until the day that I finally break her in, she only needs to know that I'm the "occasional" cigar smoker.

Best of luck, Pete. We're wearing the same shoes and walking the same walk. I can relate to you 100%, bro.
 
Major Captain Silly said:
I've always said that the best recourse for cheese doodles is construction paper. The red always seems to work best. Try to talk to your watch or a clock in your domicile about the chances of drawing a straight flush at the World Series of Poker. You'll get through this if you have a Lenny Dykstra rookie card.

MCS
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WTF?
Where the hell did I put that tinfoil hat?
 
Here are the phrases you need to use when your wife protests:

A) I am the king!
B) My word is law!
C) I rule!

Use them separately and at regular intervals during the discussion. Goodness and justice will prevail. Larry.:w
 
petewho said:
Well, lemme clarify - she KNOWS I smoke cigars. The thing I'm hiding is the frequency! Guys nights out, business trips, golf, etc, are all fair game and even warrant an, "I'm pulling an extra $40 out of checking for some cigars". But the solo weekday stuff I try to keep low profile.

Added bonus - I have super short hair which doesn't hold much odor. I remember my teenage days of long hair holding the stench of cigarettes for days after I went to rock concerts. That was nasty!

However, today my hand smells like Gurkha.

-Pete
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:r :r :r Why do I see this in Klugs's sig sometime soon?
 
PUFFNMO said:
Here are the phrases you need to use when your wife protests:

A) I am the king!
B) My word is law!
C) I rule!

Use them separately and at regular intervals during the discussion. Goodness and justice will prevail. Larry.:w
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:r Then, let us all know how that works out for you. :tu
 
I am a public smoker and i just have to put up with the nagging i get... i am a big boy and i can take it... :D
 
Alright all you Gorillas! Feel the power you have over a lowly FNG like myself! Especially for boonedoggle, butterbeezy, Little General, dantzig, shilala, acruce, beamish, fireman43, groogs, tenbaseg, Mullet, and eriksson20...

I had a talk with the wife last night, everything is out in the open now, but I still have to unstinkify myself a cigar if I expect to be allowed into my bed at night.

No more stealth needed.

-Pete
 
petewho said:
- Cash cigar purchases only.
Pete
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Great! :tu

And you can't expect to pay cash for smokes forever, there's so many deals on the internet it's really hard to pass them up
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WTF! This guy is being financially smart and responsible and you're trying to tell him he's wrong.:sl It sounds like this guy will save the money for any purchase he for sees in the future via cash payment which doesn't string along inflated interest rates that build with time.
 
petewho said:
I had a talk with the wife last night, everything is out in the open now, but I still have to unstinkify myself a cigar if I expect to be allowed into my bed at night.

No more stealth needed.
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Congratulations....that is the first step towards recovery is admitting your problem :r
 
petewho said:
I had a talk with the wife last night, everything is out in the open now, but I still have to unstinkify myself a cigar if I expect to be allowed into my bed at night.

No more stealth needed.

-Pete
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Awsome news Pete. Now you can enjoy your smokes without feeling as if you're cheating on your wife with a cigar. You'll be able to relax and pick out those Madagascar toasted vanilla flavors everyone's been talking about.

:bl
 
petewho said:
Alright all you Gorillas! Feel the power you have over a lowly FNG like myself! Especially for boonedoggle, butterbeezy, Little General, dantzig, shilala, acruce, beamish, fireman43, groogs, tenbaseg, Mullet, and eriksson20...

I had a talk with the wife last night, everything is out in the open now, but I still have to unstinkify myself a cigar if I expect to be allowed into my bed at night.

No more stealth needed.

-Pete
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I hope my little pep talk helped.

MCS
 
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