This is really two different questions.
What is your spouse's reaction when you light up a stick? More often than not it's "Go for it!"
Is it ok to smoke stogies in your house? I would never do it. None of us wants the smell lingering in the house, in the furniture, etc. I'm perfectly content on the patio, or in the garage during cold weather.
Ditto! The wife keeps telling me she doesn't mind if I smoke in the house, I know that I don't want my books and other things to smell like stale cigar smoke after a while. So, I go outside or smoke in my excercise/smoke room that has a fan in the window to exhaust the smoke.