"Neighbor" etiquette?

Old Sailor said:
My house...my yard...too bad. I tell anyone that complains if they pay my mortgage and taxes fine, otherwise TS.
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The hard a$$ in me wants to say that, and usually thinks that.

During the week, I only smoke at night, usually after 8 PM. On the weekends, usually some during the day and night. If you see me brining my laptop to the porch get ready to shut your windows. Quite often I hear the swish of the window closing, sometimes with some irritation. Some of the neighbors like the smell and do nothing. At this point, I think most of them are immune to the smell and are use to it.


dantzig said:
Now if you live in a townhouse, condo, apartment, or multiplex then things get more complicated. I live in a townhouse and my back deck is about 12 ft. away from my closest neighbor's.
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I live in a real brick rowhouse, what they call townhouses now but are only brick vineered, and I am concerned about some of the neighbors.

It's like this, the ones that actually give a crap about us, and the neighborhood, and pull some weight to make it a nice place, I asked them to let me know if it bothers them. They said if it ever bothered them they'd shut the window, and they do regularly. Now the neighbors that contribute nothing, don't even say high, or lift a finger, I don't worry about them. That maybe be a$$holish, but thats the way we roll in our neighborhood. Everyone contributes, whoever is the first to get their mower out cuts the the yard next to them. Whoever gets the shovel out first, gets rid of his neighbors snow. When you see each other you say high. If you can't meet these minimum standards you pretty much are disregarded as unneighborly, cigar smoke or not.

Blueface said:
Sometimes, being a good neighbor is more than conceding/giving in to what your neighbor wants you to do. Sometimes it is about being tolerant and both sides dealing with it by respecting each other's rights, particular when on one's personal property and not doing anything illegal.
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Very good points. When the lady on one side of me use to smoke cigarettes, she never asked about all the smoke blowing in my window. When the new couple on the right were remodeling the upstairs, they never asked if we liked the sound of a drill and grinder vibrating through the walls at 11 PM. But did we complain ... no!

You have good peoples and not good peoples, the good ones know to live and let live.
 
Now this is just my 2 cents of my bird brain,
I personely think it depends what kind of people they are, if its the kind of people you want as real neighbors, then I'd do them and your self a solid and not upset them. After all me know some people can't stand smoke.
If its the kind you want to stay back 200 feet from then I'd look at the options. You don't want any one upseting you or get in to a real fight.
 
I bend over backwards to appease people all day long. My home is just about the last isle of sanity in an ocean of finger pointers, back stabbers, and told-you-sos. If I didn't feel comfortable with something as simple as relaxing with a cigar without offending someone, I'd really think of moving someplace this wouldn't be an issue.

I understand the points made about not being a jerk for jerk's sake, but your relaxation at home is every bit as important as anyone elses.

:2 :2
 
I don't complain about them enjoying some bud, and they don't complain about my enjoyment of some leaf. We get along great anyways and it's never been an issue.
 
great thread with lots of good responses, I think a majority of us will smoke them anyway, but will also take factors into consideration such as a neighbor having a dinner party, or child's birthday party, we wanna smoke and realize if we wait even 30 minutes their event will be done. Most of us will still do it, but do it politely and if someone is rude to use... F 'em
 
this thread's made me realize i've got some pretty decent neighbors - but then again, we're all far enough away from each other that it really isn't an issue.

i do agree that being courteous is the right way to go...
 
dantzig said:
...I guess it all comes down to just basic common courtesy and communication. Talk to your neighbors and see if they mind. If it does bother them, see what you can do within reason to keep them happy. If they see that you're making an effort to be a good neighbor and accommodate them, then they will likely do the same for you.
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Well said. Being a good neighbor usually yields benefits in many areas, not the least of which is carefree cigar smoking. :tu
 
I just yell at 'em: "Hey, you quit eating my grass and pooping in my yard and I'll put out my cigar." They never quit so neither do I.

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Serious note: I have no neighbors close by so no problem.

WyoBob
 
"Home, home on the range! Where the deer and the antelope play... "

Great pic, Bob! :ss

WyoBob said:
I just yell at 'em: "Hey, you quit eating my grass and pooping in my yard and I'll put out my cigar." They never quit so neither do I.

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Serious note: I have no neighbors close by so no problem.

WyoBob
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As far as neighbors, I try to be courteous. I live by the axiom, "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" as much as possible. This assumes of course they are reasonable people...

For instance, if they don't mind you watching their 17-year-old daughter in her room at night, your cigar smoke should not be a problem. :r
 
I REALLY appreciate you all answering my original question with some honest-to-goodness answers.

I was out there tonight and the neighbors daughter was coughing a LOT. I don't think it was related to my cigar because I'd see her turn on the light in her bathroom (one window over) and then back into her room. I put my cigar out, thinking I sure wasn't HELPING the situation at all by smoking 15' from her bedroom window.

So I guess at the end of the day, it's all about manners...not necessarily etiquette. Right?
 
WyoBob said:
I just yell at 'em: "Hey, you quit eating my grass and pooping in my yard and I'll put out my cigar." They never quit so neither do I.

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Serious note: I have no neighbors close by so no problem.

WyoBob
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With neighbors like that I would be smokin with my .270 next to me and a full freezer!
 
Mr. Doug said:
Wow...I posted this before I went to bed and didn't expect 3 pages by the morning!

I'm generally pretty considerate. One of my neighbor's 17yr-old daughter has her bedroom window about 20' from my 'smoking area' so if her window is open, I usually gauge the wind direction before lighting up. If they are having a dinner party outside, I usually don't light one either.

Other than that, their dog uses the air to send "barks" into my yard, I guess I'm just returning the favor.
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good thing there are only two pages then. :)
 
:ss:cb:pp:w Smokem' if you gottem'
The world is my ashtray.... Not really:D Always respect you mother..:r...
DOWN WITH METHANE :BS .. EAT MORE STEAK!!:chk
 
I live in an apartment complex, but the apartments are set up more like duplexes (one story, side by side) so there is a lot of contact between the neighbors and myself. One neighbor has come in from the parking lot as I am smoking a stick and has said "Mmmmm, I thought I smelled a cigar." A neighbor across the sidewalk has never said anything pro or con, but gave me a grill after a few conversations across the fence while I was smoking so I doubt she finds my cigar smoking offensive.

In any event, I think I would be mindful of my neighbors feelings, but being mindful doesn't mean being banned from outdoor smoking.
 
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