Wel I Got The Shock Of A Lifetime!!!

Next you'll be lamenting that you came home from work, and your lovely Mrs. has burned halfway through your prized Davidoff 80th Aniversario, explaining that it was the most relaxing looking cigar in your humi. :D

Just kidding, of course. Me and the fetching Mrs. Brew enjoy a cigar together almost every day. She likes going to herfs too. She looks sexy without a cigar, but with one? :dr

BTW...her favorites are flavored (CAO Earth Nectar, Tatiana Cappiccino, Chocolate Sweeties), but lately she has been exploring naturals, which delights me.
 
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Im in an interesting boat-my girlfriend loves the smell, but wont smoke one because she doesn't want to start smoking. Much better than the ex that made me change, shower, and brush my teeth...
 
ljbrandt said:
I know I'm gonna get reamed :hnfor this reply, but I got to get this off my chest. First off, this was a very interesting post and I have to admit it caught my attention right away. But after reading it and the various positive responses, something just kind of irked me about the whole situation.

But before I begin, I'd like to preface my comment with the thought that anything that helps a couple connect a little more, whether it be a shared interest or good communication, I'm all for.

I don't how to say this delicately, so I'll just come out and say it. I don't like the idea of my wife or girlfriend smoking a cigar, especially with me. I might be old fashioned, but I see cigar smoking as a masculine activity and if my significant other wanted to partake in a shared smoke, it would take something away from the idea that it's MY 'man' time, or even my time with the 'boys'.

Now please don't think I'm sexist, because my wife basically rules the household and I essentially do everything that she says. But there are certain understood boundaries where we try not to get involved in some of each others interests (e.g. she wants to be left alone when watching sex in the city and I delightfully respect that).

Even if you guys disagree, where do you draw the line? If you dipped or chewed (God forbid), and your wife wanted to spit in the same spittoon with you on the porch, does anyone see the issue here? On the opposite end of the spectrum, lets say your wife knits, which similar to cigars can be a calming/relaxing activity, and you asked her if you could join on a regular basis...how do you think she would take that?

Any and all comments welcome...and I pray that I'm not the ONLY one that feels this way.
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My friend and BOtL, there are a lot of things to get irked with in this life, but please, don't make this one of them. Save your antipathy for the important things, like politics and the daily commuters. :D

I can appreciate that you draw this boundary between you and your wife. I would hope that you view that as a matter of subscription, not prescription. Wouldn't you agree that things which work for you wouldn't necessarily work for everybody? One size does not fit all, especially in matters of leisure activity.

That said, I personally draw the line at peeing. I simply will not tolerate her standing up when she pees, and I'm looking for a law if she tries to pee her name in the snow.

Kidding aside, what's wrong with dipping and chewing? I don't partake of those, but God bless those who want to. And if I did, I could understand why my wife might...it could be the only way she could get to the point of tolerating kissing me. Perhaps that's why my wife smokes cigars with me.

By the way, I don't think you're sexist. I think you're a little p-whipped though. :r

Not really...smile friend, and be well. :D
 
I can't say I'd ream you, and in all honestly I understand the whole "this is my time" My somewhere-in-between-fiance-and-girlfriend enjoys a cigar here or there, but no where near as much as me. She kinda knows when to just let me go smoke by my self.... it's a blessing for some and a curse for others. depends on where you stand.
 
csbrewfisher said:
My friend and BOtL, there are a lot of things to get irked with in this life, but please, don't make this one of them. Save your antipathy for the important things, like politics and the daily commuters. :D
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Well said.

csbrewfisher said:
That said, I personally draw the line at peeing. I simply will not tolerate her standing up when she pees, and I'm looking for a law if she tries to pee her name in the snow.
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:r:r:r:r:r :tu
 
I can see where ljbrandt is coming from (I interpreted his comments to mean he likes "alone" time away from the significant other), though I thoroughly enjoy smoking cigars with my wife. We both have time to ourselves and with our friends - they watch chick-flicks, go shopping, etc while the guys and I hang out, play poker, etc.

While my wife and I already have activities we can enjoy together she took the opportunity to start smoking cigars with me since I just recently started myself. I've smoked a pipe for quite a while and, though she tried it a couple of times, she never enjoyed it. So instead of my smoking being another activity just for me it's another activity for us both. In fact the time spent smoking is ideal for conversation. I've had some good conversations with her in the last month!

We all need "space" (actually, I think that just means social stimulation from outside the relationship, but "space" is easier to say) and privacy - I understand that. It just worked out better this way for us.

Just my :2.
 
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ljbrandt said:
I know I'm gonna get reamed :hnfor this reply, but I got to get this off my chest. First off, this was a very interesting post and I have to admit it caught my attention right away. But after reading it and the various positive responses, something just kind of irked me about the whole situation.

But before I begin, I'd like to preface my comment with the thought that anything that helps a couple connect a little more, whether it be a shared interest or good communication, I'm all for.

I don't how to say this delicately, so I'll just come out and say it. I don't like the idea of my wife or girlfriend smoking a cigar, especially with me. I might be old fashioned, but I see cigar smoking as a masculine activity and if my significant other wanted to partake in a shared smoke, it would take something away from the idea that it's MY 'man' time, or even my time with the 'boys'.

Now please don't think I'm sexist, because my wife basically rules the household and I essentially do everything that she says. But there are certain understood boundaries where we try not to get involved in some of each others interests (e.g. she wants to be left alone when watching sex in the city and I delightfully respect that).

Even if you guys disagree, where do you draw the line? If you dipped or chewed (God forbid), and your wife wanted to spit in the same spittoon with you on the porch, does anyone see the issue here? On the opposite end of the spectrum, lets say your wife knits, which similar to cigars can be a calming/relaxing activity, and you asked her if you could join on a regular basis...how do you think she would take that?

Any and all comments welcome...and I pray that I'm not the ONLY one that feels this way.
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No reaming here, my BOTL. Your life and your opinions of how you want to live your life are respected here.

There are plenty of CS bastages here who are happy to have their wife/significant other as a SOTL, though our opinions may differ as to how much time they should spend with us in our pursuit of the perfect smoke. We all have our own opinions.

My wife (BarneysFunGirl) is my best friend. I was happy when she began to enjoy a cigar with me at times, and always enjoy the time we spend together. To be honest, there is no one with whom I would rather spend every possible moment, and that includes smoking time. After 22 years of marriage, my heart still flutters when she walks into the room, and does a double-flip when that walk includes a cigar in hand. :ss
 
You guys that have wifes/girlfriends that like to smoke cigars are very lucky to say the least.. My wife wont even go out on the patio when I'm out there with a cigar and a drink... At first it wasn't bad, I started smoking acids and she liked the smell of those, she even hit it a couple times, but now that I don't smoke acids, no way....:mad:
 
BarneyBandMan said:
No reaming here, my BOTL. Your life and your opinions of how you want to live your life are respected here.

There are plenty of CS bastages here who are happy to have their wife/significant other as a SOTL, though our opinions may differ as to how much time they should spend with us in our pursuit of the perfect smoke. We all have our own opinions.

My wife (BarneysFunGirl) is my best friend. I was happy when she began to enjoy a cigar with me at times, and always enjoy the time we spend together. To be honest, there is no one with whom I would rather spend every possible moment, and that includes smoking time. After 22 years of marriage, my heart still flutters when she walks into the room, and does a double-flip when that walk includes a cigar in hand. :ss
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DITTO! Very well said.
I am not going to knock anybody that needs their alone time or feels that smoking is a manly thing. I said it once and I say it again "to each their own", whatever makes you happy.

The way I see it is a lot of people "settle" in life. I never want to settle for anything, especially my wife. I married my soul mate. She is perfect for me and I knew from the very first conversation. I really enjoy all the time we spend together and I love doing everything with her. Now that we can share "cigar" time together, it just makes more us time.:ss

I must say. I did not expect this thread to go this way but I like all the comments, feedback,and opinions from everyone.

To all of us that get to enjoy "cigar time" with our best friends, I say...congratulations. :tu
 
I must say, this was a most enjoyable thread to read! Even given the difference of opinions, it was very encouraging and and engaging read....

Having been introduced to the joys of premium cigars by my wife, I take the side that I enjoy all of the time that she and I get to enjoy winding down and conversing over a good cigar and nice glass of wine, but I'm also blessed with a wife that encourages me to enjoy cigar time of my own when she's not in the mood...so I have the best of both worlds....

I have a wonderful wife and cigar partner!!

Stomp'N'Rock,

Joseph
 
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